Confidence & Self-esteem

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Are you living the life you really want?

Sometimes we are not able to truly embrace life because we have a poor self-image: we suffer with low self-esteem; or low self-confidence; or a combination of both. Self-esteem is our own perception of our self-worth, based on our beliefs e.g.”I am useless”, “I am competent”. If you have high self-esteem you are generally kind and accepting of yourself, happy with who you are, and tend not to look to others for reassurance. Conversely with low self-esteem you will have a tendency to be critical of yourself and seek approval from others. By contrast self-confidence is your belief in your abilities to do something e.g. “I am an excellent cook”. Self-confidence builds and grows with the appreciation of your ability to overcome obstacles and learn new skills.

A low level of either self-esteem or self-confidence can hold us back in life because there are too many ‘what ifs’. You don’t think you are interesting to know and dread social situations – what if you are left in the embarrassing situation of having to make small talk with strangers? – so you slowly withdraw into your lonely world. Perhaps you fear public speaking – what if your mind goes blank and you find yourself lost for words, making a fool of yourself? – so you make your excuses and soon you have been passed up for promotion again. You are afraid to go for that job you would love to do – what if you can’t cope with your new responsibilities and you don’t make the probationary period? – so you stay stuck in that boring, humdrum and low paid role. You would love to ask that gorgeous girl out – what if she laughs in your face in front of your mates? – so you decide to stick to being single you wouldn’t want to share the TV remote anyway.

We are EXACTLY what we believe ourselves to be. As Henry Ford famously put it “Whether you think you can or can’t, either way you are right.” Our beliefs our formed through our experiences and our interpretation of those experiences. Although most of our beliefs are formed in childhood that doesn’t mean that we are stuck with them. We can question and remove those limiting beliefs and replace them with new empowering beliefs that match the image of ourselves that we would like to have. Once our beliefs match that image we can transform ourselves easily and naturally into the person we want to be, living the life we really want.

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